Anna gives Zach up

The ultimate breaking point for what was left of their “marriage” came when Zach decided to use ButterFly as an ace card in this whole “game”. His threat to Anna was, “Give the baby to my parents and we can be husband and wife.” This was the ultimate point to Anna. He had made the wrong threat. This little girl was Anna’s heart and soul, and Zach wanted her to give her baby away. The threat didn’t stop there. If that was not enough, Zach’s parents went to Anna’s parents’ house while Anna was at work to demand the baby.
Anna had to protect her little girl at all costs. She told Zach that it was over on all levels. It was one thing for him to play with her and her feelings. However, Anna is a grown up and can defend herself. ButterFly was not even two years old. Why toy with a defenceless infant? Zach threatened to take Anna to court, however Anna armed herself with legal research and Zach had no leg to stand on.
Zach didn’t pay any child or spousal support nor attempted to pay any of the debt that Anna had made due to him. Yes legally it was hers, but morally they were shared. They were husband and wife; the vows made on their wedding day were to stick together through thick and thin, for better or for worse. This was not the case. Zach had packed up and left and had left the situation in Anna’s hand – knowing that she was incapable of paying off the debt and supporting the baby. However, Anna was lucky. The Almighty did not walk out on her. Her parents took on the full responsibility of support Baby ButterFly while Anna worked day & night to pay the debt off. Zach constantly emailed & called Anna up with threats & such. But Anna was done.
One of the last email conversations that Anna had with Zach was this email from Zach:

Hope you are well.

I have bought stuff for B F and have done a transfer for some other things that she probably needs.

Also, I would like to come over on the weekend for 2 reasons ? one, to see B F and two, to discuss with you your personal financial status. However, if you do want the discussion to take place, I require a neutral venue as this is between us. Likewise the upbringing of our child.

I would also like to know, and in effect buy for B F any items of clothes that she may need.

As that we have had two children together, I don?t foresee this being a problem for whatever differences we may have had. Kindly get back to me at your soonest so that arrangements can be made ? please, I do not want to cause any problems ? I just want to see my daughter. If it is a problem let me know.

Please do not hesitate to contact me for further..

To this Anna waited a few days to reply but dropped a bombshell on him…


February 17, 2011 Posted by | Uncategorized | 2 Comments

The Aftermath of Divorce

The days following Zach’s departure were the hardest in Anna’s life. ButterFly cried for her dad to the point that she got sick. He neither called, texted or emailed his wife or daughter. Yet, everything began unraveling. All Zach’s plans were in the open.

Zach had been planning to leave his wife a couple of months’ earlier. His parents had convinced him that his wife and child were nothing but expenses and were weights on his shoulder. He wasn’t progressing in life because of them. Zach had also began an affair a while back with an anonymous girl.

The affair was the least of Anna’s worries. What killed her was that she had made vows of eternity with this man, had been through moments of extreme happiness as well as moments of heart wrenching sadness. Anna was broken. In more ways than one. This man was the father of her babies. She loved him deeply. They had shared so much. How could all of this be true? And it was.

And the humiliation did not stop there. Zach had been recording conversations and arguments between Anna and himself over the past couple of months. Anna had no knowledge about this. She came to know of this when she threatened Zach to go to court for sole custody and child support. How much further could he break her spirit? Were discussions between husband and wife just that – between husband and wife? And it did not end there. Zach had played those recordings to his friends and family to try and discredit Anna, as well as remove ButterFly from her care permanently. Who was Anna really married to?

Things got uglier and uglier. Zach’s parents demanded wedding gifts to Anna back – claiming that it was family tradition to only LOAN the daughter in law heirlooms like jewellery. At divorce, these gifts were to be returned as the belonged to the husband and not to her. Anna point blank refused and an argument ensued between hers and Zach’s parents, that got really ugly.

Anna constantly tried to make things work with Zach, by begging him. She loved him a lot. She would have done anything to not let her family break. If anything, Anna wanted for her baby more than Anna herself had. Anna had her parents together and that’s what she wanted ButterFly to have. This wasn’t to be though. Zach’s arrogance was above it all. And he wanted Anna to bow down to his parents and seek their forgiveness.

Anna was willing to do it all just for her baby. Even though her parents were against it all. They knew what their daughter was up against. This man had left their daughter destitute and sky high bills, plus a mouth to feed. Zach point blank refused to shoulder any of the expenses unless Anna and ButterFly were living in his home. He constantly threated Anna with taking her to court and fighting for their baby – even though he had no leg to stand on.

The fights did not stop. However, Anna reached the breaking point one afternoon after Zach and his parents pulled a major stunt…

February 17, 2011 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment